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Love You First: Be Your Own Best Friend to Break Free
At Urban Roots, we’re all about kicking loose the stuff that drags you down—fear, old baggage, the works—so you can live real and present. One biggie that sneaks under the radar? Not loving yourself. If you’re your own worst critic, life feels heavier than it should. That lack of self-love isn’t just a bummer—it’s programming your unconscious mind every day, the part that decides what you notice and how you feel. Mix in some shadow sides—like shame or self-doubt—and it’s a recipe for stuck. Here’s how to break free by being your own best friend instead.
What’s This Self-Love Block?
Your unconscious mind is like a filter—it picks what you see, feel, and believe based on what you feed it. If you’re always down on yourself—“I suck at this,” “I’m not enough”—that’s the signal you’re sending. It’s not just talk; it’s coding. Lack of self-love builds a habit of spotting flaws over wins, turning life into a grind. Shadows creep in too—think buried shame or that nagging “I don’t deserve better” vibe. It’s like living with a bully in your head, and it’s holding you back from the good stuff.
How You’re Wiring Yourself Wrong
Why’s this happen? You’re the one programming you—every day. Tell yourself you’re a mess, and your mind goes, “Got it, let’s find proof.” Add in habits like scrolling through fights online or watching drama-packed shows, and you’re feeding it conflict vibes. Your unconscious doesn’t argue—it just soaks it up, tuning you to stress and self-hate. Shadows grow here too: maybe you hide a fear of failure or feel secretly unlovable. That’s not you being weak; it’s you not being your own best friend yet.
What You’re Missing Without Self-Love
No self-love, no lightness. You’re stuck dodging compliments, overthinking slip-ups, or feeling like you’ve got to prove something. Those shadows—self-doubt, guilt—keep you small, blocking the real you who’s chill, bold, and happy. Your unconscious keeps running that “not enough” playlist, filtering out joy. At Urban Roots, we say nah—you deserve better. Loving you first flips the script, letting you live freer and truer right now.
Spotting the Signs
How do you know this is you? Easy clues: you brush off praise, beat yourself up over little stuff, or feel drained by your own thoughts. Shadows show up too—maybe you dodge mirrors (literal or not) ‘cause you don’t like who’s looking back, or you secretly think you’re faking it. If watching arguments online gets you riled up or stuck in a funk, that’s your unconscious saying, “This is my vibe now.” Time to switch channels.
Be Your Own Best Friend
Here’s the fix: love you first. Start small—catch yourself dissing you and flip it. “I messed up” becomes “I’m learning, and that’s cool.” Ditch the conflict feed—swap fight videos for stuff that lifts you, like funny clips or nature pics. Your unconscious eats what you give it, so feed it good. Face those shadows too: write down “I’m not enough,” then tell it, “Nah, I’m plenty.” Be the friend you’d want—kind, real, in your corner. Watch life get lighter.
Shine Bright with Urban Roots
We’re Urban Roots—here to help you break free and step into the best you, full of love and grit. Not loving yourself dims your shine, but you can change that. Be your own best friend, tweak what your mind’s chewing on, and those shadows? They’ll fade. Picture this: you, happy, present, digging life’s beauty. That’s where we’re headed—let’s roll.
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